Dreams often cannot be explained. Sometimes they seem very real and you remember every detail. Other times, you only have vague and ambiguous memories the next morning. Sometimes dreams involve reliving happy times. Other times they are nightmares.

Interpretation of dreams is better left to the experts. However, sometimes you know and recognize your dreams. If you are divorced, there is no doubt that you sometimes have dreams that include your ex-spouse.

Sometimes these dreams can involve happy memories, such as the holidays or maybe your wedding. These dreams can sometimes comfort you. They can remind you that there were happy times in your marriage that you can embrace and remember fondly. Other times the happy memories can make you angry why the divorce occurred.

You cannot always control your dreams, but you can make an effort to think happy and positive thoughts before you go to bed. You can read a good book, take a bath or think of your action items.

While exercise is good to take your mind off issues, many people cannot sleep if they exercise before bed.

Other times people want the divorce and are happily moving on with their lives and wonder why they are still having dreams about their ex-spouse.

Perhaps there is still unfinished emotional business if you are still dreaming about your ex-spouse even if you have happily moved on with your life.

You may not be upset about having dreams involving your ex-spouse. Other people may seek a reason why they have not been able to completely close the door on their lives with their former spouse.

Your may still have dreams if you have children together or you may still desire a friendship with your ex-spouse. There could be many reasons why you are still having these dreams.

Discussing the reasons with friends may help. They may have some suggestions regarding relaxation techniques or other ideas that could help you. Talking through your thoughts can perhaps also give you some insight.

You also can talk to a professional who can help explain your dreams and make some suggestions.

I wish all of you pleasant and happy dreams.