COLUMBINE.

That’s all that need be said, isn’t it? That one word, and you know the whole story.

At least, as much of the story as we have had to this point. Very little has been heard from the parents of the shooters, and understandably so.

Until now.

Susan Klebold has written about the experience for O Magazine’s November issue. Whether you hold her responsible, or your heart breaks for her and all the parents, is not the point. Her courage must be recognized. Her honesty bears merit. What she has to say will certainly get you thinking. Maybe talking. Ms. Klebold took no money for the article. She has never, and still won’t, give an interview. She won’t appear on Oprah. The family has no further comment, to anybody.

You are strongly encouraged to read it. You’ll find the link below.

You’ll also find the link for NATIONAL SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE DAY, which this year is November 21. Look for activities in your area via this link. The list is international. You can also read about research being done. Social scientists want to be able to recognize the warning signs of suicide as easily as we recognize signs for other diseases.

“I WILL NEVER KNOW WHY”. That’s the title of the article. It speaks to the anguish that all the Columbine parents and alumni still live with on a daily basis, ten years later. It hints at the people who consider her as guilty as her son. It hints at the lack of grief support she’s had from the community.

Klebold does say that some family, some friends, and some of her son’s friends have bonded for comfort and support. Miraculously, some of the Columbine parents have made peace with her. Those extraordinary people give us hope for this world.

Dylan Klebold was not locked in cages, abused or neglected. He lived the ordinary life of a gifted child. His mother is very open about her experiences and feelings the day of the shootings.

If you are a suicide survivor, you will recognize yourself here, and may find encouragement.

If a loved one has died violently, your anguish will find words here.

If you are grieving, and looking for a place to put your energies where they might make a difference, see the link below to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

And everyone - pray.

Shalom.