We are all faced at some time in our lives with an unexpected guest. Many arrive during the Holidays wanting to hang out and be entertained. The Holidays, however, are also the time when calendars are full and we often are doubled booked before the out of town guest arrives. Before you decide to tote your friend along, consider a few things.

First will they will feel comfortable at this particular party? Do they know anyone? How will they feel having to be introduced them to everyone? More importantly how will your friend react at this party? Do they tend to be a bore? Are they more considerate and easy to talk to? Will they pull you away from the party before you’re ready to leave? Will they make a positive impression on the host(ess) and your other acquaintances? Finally, is there a possibility they will make you look bad?

If the answers to all these questions are all good, then go. If it’s even a bit questionable, there are other options for your friend. You could send them to a movie or put a movie on. Explain to them that you need to attend this gig and that you will see them in the morning.

If you think your unexpected guest is up for hanging out at a party they were not necessarily invited to, but might be able to act as your date, also consider the type of party you are attending. Is this gathering an open house? Or is it group specific? You need to consider what they party is, what the host(ess) would expect and how your unexpected addition will be welcomed.

If it’s a selling-type party i.e. jewelry, candles, etc., there’s definitely a possibility your addition will fit right in. When the hostess benefits from more people, it’s a win-win. More people equal more sales.

If this is a work or company party, where even a spouse is not necessarily invited, then your friend would not be appropriate. Bottom line is if this is work related, you need worker and not outsiders there.

Parties are fun. Friends are fun too. In this busy time of year, it’s hard to keep all the plates spinning and keep everyone happy. When someone unexpectedly arrives at your door, keep in mind that they weren’t invited to your night out. Also, you don’t have to bring your uninvited guest to a party just because you were invited to it. Decision-making time does not have to equate with making everyone uncomfortable.