What Your Fighting Style Reveals About You
Everyone in a relationship argues. However, how loudly you scream, or how frequently you fight does not predict the outcome of your marriage. Most revealing about the happiness factor of your relationship and of course, how good you feel about yourself is your fighting style. See if you fit any of the four categories:
Most critical is the answer to the question: Do you respect and accept your partner’s differences? The goal of any fight is to reach an equitable solution, fair to both parties. You are two different people who want to have a constructive conflict, instead of a destructive one which is a power play and always has a winner and a loser. Remember everyone has an ego and wants to be right. So let him!
For more information on relationship related stress, read my book, Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul,, especially, the chapters: Training To Deal With People Who Push Your Button, and Training For Burnout. To listen to archived radio shows with guest experts visit Turn On Your Inner Light Radio Show
- The Boxer: You take the tit-for-tat approach. You fire back immediately with an insult. You definitely go for the knockout punch!
- The Smiler: You smile while you hold a dagger behind your back. You pretend that everything is okay and that you are not hurt. However, you hold a grudge for quite awhile, as you plot revenge.
- The Stone Waller: You are a passive-aggressive. You say, “Nothing is wrong. I’m fine after all!” However, your partner can clearly see that something is definitely wrong. As a result, you reply briefly to your partner’s questions or distance yourself be hanging out alone
- The Diplomat: You are a politician and know how to defuse the situation. You preface any disagreement with a compliment. You affirm your attacker and disarm him with affirming words.
Most critical is the answer to the question: Do you respect and accept your partner’s differences? The goal of any fight is to reach an equitable solution, fair to both parties. You are two different people who want to have a constructive conflict, instead of a destructive one which is a power play and always has a winner and a loser. Remember everyone has an ego and wants to be right. So let him!
For more information on relationship related stress, read my book, Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul,, especially, the chapters: Training To Deal With People Who Push Your Button, and Training For Burnout. To listen to archived radio shows with guest experts visit Turn On Your Inner Light Radio Show
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