Guest Author - Jessica Steinmetz
People with disabilities do have a right to be parents. Regardless of a physical disability, competent people deserve an opportunity to raise a child. The road to parenting will undoubtedly is a rocky one, but like any challenge, it's worth accomplishing. With the support of your husband or wife, parenting can be made into a reality.
Resources are definitely lacking in parenting with a disability. It seems that society is semi ready for people with disabilities to be employed and be seen in public. However, when it comes to marriage and being a parent, well people aren't just ready yet to handle that. Just like any obstacle, you just have to keep working until you meet the goal. Like always society will adjust over time.
Adoption is always an option. According to the ADA, people with disabilities can and do adopt. There are hundreds of children out there just waiting to be loved. Some people might find that adopting an older child to be easier. You don't have to worry about changing diapers, bottles, and caring for an infant. An older child needs love, guidance, shelter, and a stable environment. Depending on your disability and situation, adoption might be something to seriously consider.
If you are thinking about having a baby naturally, there are things for you to take into consideration. Several doctors, gynecologists, and obstetricians are not quite opening minded about the whole idea of a woman with a significant disability giving birth. You have a lot of work ahead of you not to mention preparing for your child. It will take a lot of research, and time to find a specialist that will assist you. Try to find one that is open minded, intellectual, is willing to work with you, and is open to your ideas.
Inform the hospital and staff that one day you will be coming and delivering there. Preparation is essential at this time. Remember all those stares and glances by people during the dating period? Well, when you (or your wife) are pregnant, I'm sure that you will get a big reaction. Maternity employees at stores might not know how to react when it comes to buy maternity clothes. You have entered a minority group, but hold your chin up high and know you can do this. Be proud of the life you are about to bring into the world.
Your pregnancy might have some impact on your disability. The consequences depend on what disability you have. You might find your balance might be off, you may need more assistance than normal or mobility may be limited. Keep in mind that pregnancy only lasts approximately nine months and afterwards your system will return to normal.
If you have an infant, some products and procedures exist so that caring for the baby is easier. Many women with disabilities chose to breast-feed. When you breast feed, there are no bottles to fill or formulas to make. Bonding with the baby is phenomenal and the baby receives many nutrients. There are slings that can help hold the baby and cribs are now being made at wheelchair user level. Many diapers are made with Velcro tabs, which is helpful for someone with mobility impairments.
Parenting with a disability is an incredible step to take on. With the right attitude and information, you can succeed.
