In a previous article the host and/or hostess of a baby shower was discussed. Often an ambitious host will stall out after deciding to throw a shower for new parents. There is a lot to do and many don't know where to begin. What now? It's a common question and while there are many answers, a few basic ones are necessary. Beyond that, one can put their own spin and that of the parents-to-be on the events that happen during the shower.

First you need to invite the guests. I have many articles about sending invitations. They are listed at the bottom of this article for reference, along with thank you notes as both invites and thank yous have the same potential question: to mail or email...

Check in with the parents on this one. It's easier and cheaper to invite via email. But there are many people, think Great Aunt Bessie, who will not or cannot open an ecard. So you may have to send invitations both with a stamp and a click of a key.

Next you need to decide on guests. One important possible guest is the dad. There are many out there who would say don't worry about the dad, he still needs a few more weeks to figure everything out. In this current age we live in, however, many expectant fathers want to and are even encouraged to take huge steps of participation in anticipation of the baby's entrance into the new world. And why not? They are going to be feeding and burping and changing right along with the expectant mom. Sure he's not pregnant, but many dads want and even demand taking a very active role in the care of their new baby. For this reason, a host(ess) for a shower may want to ask just how much the dad wants to be involved. Does he want to attend the shower? Or is he more comfortable making an appearance at the end so he can help load the presents into the car? How about his close friends or brothers? Like this article started out explaining; a new baby affects everyone. And if everyone wants to be involved in celebrating this new little life that will be entering the world soon, why not encourage it?

After everyone is happy with the decision on whether or not to invite Dad, the invite list will begin to emerge. As the host, you need to pose the question, "What kind of shower do you envision?" to the mom (and dad if applicable). Is this a family shower? Work? Girlfriend? Family on one particular side of the family so another can be thrown by other relations on a different date? The size of the host's home may very well decide for you how large (or small) this shower may be.

The next article will cover prepping for the party.