How do you get your daughter from where she is to where she wants to be? You can start by creating an action plan. An action plan that involves your daughter finding out her full potential, learning real life strategies and skills needed to be happy, successful and in control.

Let’s start with who she is. What makes her shine? What makes her the person that she is? Ask your daughter to tell you who she is and see how she describes herself.

Who she wants to be is critical - anything is possible. Have your daughter go over what her interests are as well as aptitude suggestions. Accomplishments and motivational levels should be considered. For the daughter who has learning or physical challenges - understanding her physical and psychological needs should be a part of her assessment. And let’s not forget to include what she wants her desired life style to be. At this point you are able to uncover what’s holding her back from reaching her goal. Entertaining wishes and dreams is the best part of who she wants to be.

Finally, how she’ll get there. Together you and your daughter can put together goals. Develop a plan of action for meeting her goals. It can be a plan that goes hour-by-hour, or day-by-day until she reaches her goal. This way she realizes that her goals can really be reached.

Now let’s see what healthy habits she should be exploring. She should be looking for ways to understand her feelings, thoughts, emotions and her changing body! She should be discovering the power of self-worth. This is where you get an understanding of her up close and personal. You should be seeing the “be strong be me” attitude. She should be seeing beauty on her own terms. Taking responsibility of what she says, thinks and does. Exploring healthy outlets for dealing with anger, stress, feelings and emotions! You as the parent should be seeing your daughter for the young woman that she is becoming.

A couple of extra steps you can take to get your daughter to where she needs to be are. Make sure she knows that she is loved. Hug your daughter and let her know how much you love her even when she makes mistakes or misbehaves. Let your daughter believe in her power to achieve. Don’t do things for her that she can do for herself. As a toddler let her dress herself and later let her manage her allowance.

At this time you have gone over life skills, life lessons and a variety of strategies that will transform the way your daughter sees herself, her body and her life. Great job! The world is a big place and you’ve got choices as to how you want to live in it. Help her make better choices.


Live, Laugh, Love
“Making a difference in the world one person at a time”