Marriage and the Holidays
It’s the holidays, and you are running.
You have shopping to do; the presents, the food, the wine, the decorations, the tree – have you got everything?
Then there are the parties. There’s your husband’s office party, (thank goodness yours is just done during the day and everyone brings donuts or brownies). Then there’s the party with your group at church. And of course, you’ve been looking forward all year to the Williams’ annual Christmas party – it’s always a blast.
Christmas Eve you spend with your in-laws, having dinner and exchanging gifts. Then of course you go home, tuck the kiddos into bed, and get everything ready for Christmas morning and “Santa”. Christmas morning the munchkins wake up at 4 AM squealing over what they got, you drag yourselves to the coffee pot (2 or 3 or 4 times) and enjoy watching the little ones. Later that day you bundle everyone up to have Christmas dinner at your parents.
But, something’s missing. Oh, yeah, time with your spouse.
You would think that going to all those parties would mean time together, but how often do you actually stay together. No, you mingle. Same at your family get togethers. You break off, usually, in gender groupings. And by Christmas night you’re too exhausted to do anything but crash.
So here are some tips for keeping in touch with your husband or wife during the whirlwind of the holidays.
1. Turn off the radio in the car. Seriously, this is the perfect time to catch up with what is going on with each other. You’re going to be going lots of places together, make the most of it, especially if the children aren’t with you.
2. Hold hands whenever you can. Touching is comforting and makes you feel like a couple.
3. When you put the kids to bed, spend some time on the couch holding each other and going over the day. If you don’t have kids yet, do this after dinner. If you’ve gone to a party that night, do this after you get home. You can compare notes on how tipsy Mrs. Edelman got.
4. Make sure every night before bed to kiss each other and say, “I love you”. These are the two simplest things to do, and they are the things that get overlooked the most.
Basically, it comes down to – make an effort. This is the most important person in your life, make sure they don’t get treated like the least.
Happy Holidays!
You have shopping to do; the presents, the food, the wine, the decorations, the tree – have you got everything?
Then there are the parties. There’s your husband’s office party, (thank goodness yours is just done during the day and everyone brings donuts or brownies). Then there’s the party with your group at church. And of course, you’ve been looking forward all year to the Williams’ annual Christmas party – it’s always a blast.
Christmas Eve you spend with your in-laws, having dinner and exchanging gifts. Then of course you go home, tuck the kiddos into bed, and get everything ready for Christmas morning and “Santa”. Christmas morning the munchkins wake up at 4 AM squealing over what they got, you drag yourselves to the coffee pot (2 or 3 or 4 times) and enjoy watching the little ones. Later that day you bundle everyone up to have Christmas dinner at your parents.
But, something’s missing. Oh, yeah, time with your spouse.
You would think that going to all those parties would mean time together, but how often do you actually stay together. No, you mingle. Same at your family get togethers. You break off, usually, in gender groupings. And by Christmas night you’re too exhausted to do anything but crash.
So here are some tips for keeping in touch with your husband or wife during the whirlwind of the holidays.
1. Turn off the radio in the car. Seriously, this is the perfect time to catch up with what is going on with each other. You’re going to be going lots of places together, make the most of it, especially if the children aren’t with you.
2. Hold hands whenever you can. Touching is comforting and makes you feel like a couple.
3. When you put the kids to bed, spend some time on the couch holding each other and going over the day. If you don’t have kids yet, do this after dinner. If you’ve gone to a party that night, do this after you get home. You can compare notes on how tipsy Mrs. Edelman got.
4. Make sure every night before bed to kiss each other and say, “I love you”. These are the two simplest things to do, and they are the things that get overlooked the most.
Basically, it comes down to – make an effort. This is the most important person in your life, make sure they don’t get treated like the least.
Happy Holidays!
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